- went through examples/ and cleaned out excess list() calls

now without strong ref on the parent
- fix message compare for py3k

the creation of strong references within the Session;
an object will no longer have an internal reference cycle
created if it's in the transient state or moves into the
detached state - the strong ref is created only when the
object is attached to a Session and is removed when the
object is detached.  This makes it somewhat safer for an
object to have a `__del__()` method, even though this is
not recommended, as relationships with backrefs produce
cycles too.  A warning has been added when a class with
a `__del__()` method is mapped.
[ticket:2708]

become an externally usable package but still remains within the main sqlalchemy parent package.
in this system, we use kind of an ugly hack to get the noseplugin imported outside of the
"sqlalchemy" package, while still making it available within sqlalchemy for usage by
third party libraries.

and the entire related system of alternate
class implementation is now moved out
to sqlalchemy.ext.instrumentation.   This is
a seldom used system that adds significant
complexity and overhead to the mechanics of
class instrumentation.  The new architecture
allows it to remain unused until
InstrumentationManager is actually imported,
at which point it is bootstrapped into
the core.

    Py3K's new argument style of "required kw arguments",
    i.e. fn(a, b, *, c, d), fn(a, b, *args, c, d).
    Argument signatures of mapped object's __init__
    method will be preserved, including required kw rules.
    [ticket:2237]