concurrent ability to return connections from the pool means that the
"first_connect" event is now no longer synchronized either, thus leading
to dialect mis-configurations under even minimal concurrency situations.

:class:`.RootTransaction` or :class:`.TwoPhaseTransaction`
with its immediate :class:`._ConnectionFairy` as a "reset handler"
for the span of that transaction, which takes over the task
of calling commit() or rollback() for the "reset on return" behavior
of :class:`.Pool` if the transaction was not otherwise completed.
This resolves the issue that a picky transaction
like that of MySQL two-phase will be
properly closed out when the connection is closed without an
explicit rollback or commit (e.g. no longer raises "XAER_RMFAIL"
in this case - note this only shows up in logging as the exception
is not propagated within pool reset).
This issue would arise e.g. when using an orm
:class:`.Session` with ``twophase`` set, and then
:meth:`.Session.close` is called without an explicit rollback or
commit.   The change also has the effect that you will now see
an explicit "ROLLBACK" in the logs when using a :class:`.Session`
object in non-autocommit mode regardless of how that session was
discarded.  Thanks to Jeff Dairiki and Laurence Rowe for isolating
the issue here. [ticket:2907]

events including auto-invalidation, which is useful both for tests here as well as
detecting failure conditions within the "reset" or "close" cases.
- rename the argument for PoolEvents.reset() to dbapi_connection and connection_record
to be consistent with everything else.
- add new documentation sections on invalidation, including auto-invalidation
and the invalidation process within the pool.
- add _ConnectionFairy and _ConnectionRecord to the pool documentation.  Establish
docs for common _ConnectionFairy/_ConnectionRecord methods and accessors and
have PoolEvents docs refer to _ConnectionRecord,
since it is passed to all events.  Rename a few _ConnectionFairy methods that are actually
private to pool such as _checkout(), _checkin() and _checkout_existing(); there should not
be any external code calling these

attempts when an existing connection attempt is blocking.  Previously,
the production of new connections was serialized within the block
that monitored overflow; the overflow counter is now altered within
it's own critical section outside of the connection process itself.
[ticket:2880]

connection to be available, such that for a connection pool
with no timeout specified, it will every half a second break out of
the wait to check for the so-called "abort" flag, which allows the
waiter to break out in case the whole connection pool was dumped;
normally the waiter should break out due to a notify_all() but it's
possible this notify_all() is missed in very slim cases.
This is an extension of logic first introduced in 0.8.0, and the
issue has only been observed occasionally in stress tests.

- use thread.join() for waiters_handled test