back by using an attrgetter for the default case

This supports the use case of an application that uses the same set of
:class:`.Table` objects in many schemas, such as schema-per-user.
A new execution option
:paramref:`.Connection.execution_options.schema_translate_map` is
added. fixes #2685
- latest tox doesn't like the {posargs} in the profile rerunner

insert-default holding columns not otherwise included in the SET
clause (such as primary key cols) to get rendered into the RETURNING
even though this is an UPDATE.

- Major fixes to the :paramref:`.Mapper.eager_defaults` flag, this
flag would not be honored correctly in the case that multiple
UPDATE statements were to be emitted, either as part of a flush
or a bulk update operation.  Additionally, RETURNING
would be emitted unnecessarily within update statements.

fixes #3609

applying any topological sort to tables on SQLite.  See the
changelog for details, but we now continue to sort
tables for SQLite on DROP, prohibit the sort from considering
alter, and only warn if we encounter an unresolvable cycle, in
which case, then we forego the ordering.  use_alter as always
is used to break such a cycle.
fixes #3378

with the psycopg2 dialect in conjunction with non-ascii values
and ``native_enum=False`` would fail to decode return results properly.
This stemmed from when the PG :class:`.postgresql.ENUM` type used
to be a standalone type without a "non native" option.
fixes #3354
- corrected the assertsql comparison rule to expect a non-ascii
SQL string

use events that are local to the engine and to the run and are removed afterwards.

sqlalchemy/orm, sqlalchemy/event, sqlalchemy/testing

to get all flake8 passing