- rework the event system so that event modules load after their
targets, dependencies are reversed
- create an improved strategy lookup system for the ORM
- rework the ORM to have very few import cycles
- move out "importlater" to just util.dependency
- other tricks to cross-populate modules in as clear a way as possible

when loading mapped entities.   The function overhead of applying
a per-object deferred callable to an instance at load time was
significantly higher than that of just loading the data from the row
(note that ``defer()`` is meant to reduce DB/network overhead, not
necessarily function call count); the function call overhead is now
less than that of loading data from the column in all cases.  There
is also a reduction in the number of "lazy callable" objects created
per load from N (total deferred values in the result) to 1 (total
number of deferred cols).
[ticket:2778]

mapped objects, such that if the reference to the object
were lost when the object was pickled, we don't
erroneously try to set up _sa_instance_state - fixes
a NoneType error.

the creation of strong references within the Session;
an object will no longer have an internal reference cycle
created if it's in the transient state or moves into the
detached state - the strong ref is created only when the
object is attached to a Session and is removed when the
object is detached.  This makes it somewhat safer for an
object to have a `__del__()` method, even though this is
not recommended, as relationships with backrefs produce
cycles too.  A warning has been added when a class with
a `__del__()` method is mapped.
[ticket:2708]

remove reset_memoized