fixes #3488

Change-Id: Ic9577b800e4a4e2465ec7f3a2e95bd231f5337ee
Co-Authored-By: Mike Bayer <mike_mp@zzzcomputing.com>

- establish make_transient and make_transient_to_detached as special-use,
advanced use only functions
- list all conditions under make_transient() under which an attribute
will not be loaded and establish that make_transient() does not attempt
to load all attributes before detaching the object from its
session, fixes #3640

unambiguous tracking of all object lifecycle state transitions
in terms of the :class:`.Session` itself, e.g. pending,
transient,  persistent, detached.   The state of the object
within each event is also defined.
fixes #2677
- Added a new session lifecycle state :term:`deleted`.  This new state
represents an object that has been deleted from the :term:`persistent`
state and will move to the :term:`detached` state once the transaction
is committed.  This resolves the long-standing issue that objects
which were deleted existed in a gray area between persistent and
detached.   The :attr:`.InstanceState.persistent` accessor will
**no longer** report on a deleted object as persistent; the
:attr:`.InstanceState.deleted` accessor will instead be True for
these objects, until they become detached.
- The :paramref:`.Session.weak_identity_map` parameter is deprecated.
See the new recipe at :ref:`session_referencing_behavior` for
an event-based approach to maintaining strong identity map behavior.
references #3517

by mock and other __getattr__ impostors

- ensure that kwargs can be modified in-place within InstanceEvents.init
and that these take effect for the __init__ method.
- improve documentation for these and related events, including
that kwargs can be modified in-place.

to function for a many-to-one relationship.  The loader used an
API to place "None" into the dictionary which no longer actually
writes a value; this is a side effect of :ticket:`3061`.
- remove InstanceState._initialize() totally, it's used nowhere
else and no longer does what it says it does
- fill in fowards-port version ids throughout the changes for 1.0.9

in callcounts specific to the "expiration" of objects, as in
the "auto expire" feature of :meth:`.Session.commit` and
for :meth:`.Session.expire_all`, as well as in the "cleanup" step
which occurs when object states are garbage collected.
fixes #3307