Make socket I/O non-blocking and add optional timeouts.

Users may now set `GIT_OPT_SET_SERVER_CONNECT_TIMEOUT` to set a shorter
connection timeout. (The connect timeout cannot be longer than the
operating system default.) Users may also now configure the socket read
and write timeouts with `GIT_OPT_SET_SERVER_TIMEOUT`.

By default, connects still timeout based on the operating system
defaults (typically 75 seconds) and socket read and writes block.

Add a test against our custom testing git server that ensures that we
can timeout reads against a slow server.

The `gitno` buffer interface is another layer on top of socket reads.
Abstract it a bit into a "static string" that has `git_str` like
semantics but without heap allocation which moves the actual reading
logic into the socket / stream code, and allows for easier future usage
of a static / stack-allocated `git_str`-like interface.

`git__timer` is now `git_time_monotonic`, and returns milliseconds
since an arbitrary epoch.

Using a floating point to store the number of seconds elapsed was
clever, as it better supports the wide range of precision from the
different monotonic clocks of different systems. But we're a version
control system, not a real-time clock.

Milliseconds is a good enough precision for our work _and_ it's the
units that system calls like `poll` take and that our users interact
with.

Make `git_time_monotonic` return the monotonically increasing number
of milliseconds "ticked" since some arbitrary epoch.

Shallow (#6396) with some fixes from review

The `depth` field is suitable to specify unshallowing; provide an enum
to aide in specifying the `unshallow` value.

Users should provide us an array of object ids; we don't need a separate
type. And especially, we should not be mutating user-providing values.
Instead, use `git_oid *` in the shallow code.