This lets us specify in the status call which ignore rules we want to
use (optionally falling back to whatever the submodule has in its
configuration).

This removes one of the reasons for having `_set_ignore()` set the value
in-memory. We re-use the `IGNORE_RESET` value for this as it is no
longer relevant but has a similar purpose to `IGNORE_FALLBACK`.

Similarly, we remove `IGNORE_DEFAULT` which does not have use outside of
initializers and move that to fall back to the configuration as well.

Instead of affecting a particular instance, make it change the
configuration.

We cannot know from looking at .gitmodules whether a directory is a
submodule or not. We need the index or tree we are comparing against to
tell us. Otherwise we have to assume the entry in .gitmodules is stale
or otherwise invalid.

Thus we pass the index of the repository into the workdir iterator, even
if we do not want to compare against it. This follows what git does,
which even for `git diff <tree>`, it will consider staged submodules as
such.

Make submodules externally refcounted

When a directory containing a .git directory (or even just a plain
gitlink) was found, libgit2 was going out of its way to treat it
specially.  This seemed like it was necessary because the diff
code was not originally emulating Git's behavior for untracked
directories correctly (i.e. scanning for ignored vs untracked items
inside).  Now that libgit2 diff mimics Git's untracked directory
behavior, the special handling for contained Git repos is actually
incorrect and this commit rips it out.

`git_submodule` objects were already refcounted internally in case
the submodule name was different from the path at which it was
stored.  This makes that refcounting externally used as well, so
`git_submodule_lookup` and `git_submodule_add_setup` return an
object that requires a `git_submodule_free` when done.