Make socket I/O non-blocking and add optional timeouts.

Users may now set `GIT_OPT_SET_SERVER_CONNECT_TIMEOUT` to set a shorter
connection timeout. (The connect timeout cannot be longer than the
operating system default.) Users may also now configure the socket read
and write timeouts with `GIT_OPT_SET_SERVER_TIMEOUT`.

By default, connects still timeout based on the operating system
defaults (typically 75 seconds) and socket read and writes block.

Add a test against our custom testing git server that ensures that we
can timeout reads against a slow server.

Users should provide us an array of object ids; we don't need a separate
type. And especially, we should not be mutating user-providing values.
Instead, use `git_oid *` in the shallow code.