Separate reference gathering from rendering

This is a required step to allow batch processing when gathering references. This in turn would allow grabbing (for example) all mentioned users of an issue/merge request using a single query.

cc @rspeicher @DouweM 

See merge request !3969

There are several changes to this module:

1. The use of an explicit stack in Participable#participants
2. Proc behaviour has been changed
3. Batch permissions checking

== Explicit Stack

Participable#participants no longer uses recursion to process "self" and
all child objects, instead it uses an Array and processes objects in
breadth-first order. This allows us to for example create a single
Gitlab::ReferenceExtractor instance and pass this to any Procs. Re-using
a ReferenceExtractor removes the need for running potentially many SQL
queries every time a Proc is called on a new object.

== Proc Behaviour Changed

Previously a Proc in Participable was expected to return an Array of
User instances. This has been changed and instead it's now expected that
a Proc modifies the Gitlab::ReferenceExtractor passed to it. The return
value of the Proc is ignored.

== Permissions Checking

The method Participable#participants uses
Ability.users_that_can_read_project to check if the returned users have
access to the project of "self" _without_ running multiple SQL queries
for every user.

Confidential notes data leak

Fixes part of https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ee/issues/575

See merge request !1967